The beginning of the Cycle Breaker Series
Growing Up Inside the Cycle
I didn’t grow up thinking I’d be the one to break the cycle.
Honestly, I didn’t even know what the cycle was—only that something always felt off.
The yelling. The silence. The pretending. The way love was handed out with conditions and connection came with caution.
I wasn’t taught how to regulate my emotions. I was taught how to survive them.
I wasn’t raised to thrive. I was raised to adapt. To tolerate. To shrink.
And yet—somewhere in me—I knew.
I knew that the chaos wasn’t normal, even when it was routine.
I knew that the constant walking on eggshells wasn’t love, even when it was wrapped in “family.”
I knew that just because it had always been this way, didn’t mean it had to stay this way.
The Moment of Awareness
That’s where it started.
The awareness.
The deep questioning.
The ache that said, “This cannot be all there is.”
The Invisible Weight of Choosing Differently
Being a cycle breaker isn’t a glamorous title.
It’s not a badge of honour you wear with pride—it’s a heavy, invisible load.
You feel it when you choose silence instead of shouting.
When you choose therapy instead of blame.
When you pause before reacting, or walk away from what you were taught to tolerate.
You feel it when you look at your children and realise you’re giving them something you never had.
Peace.
Presence.
Permission to be soft.
Choosing Love Without Repeating the Pattern
But breaking the cycle doesn’t mean hating the people who came before you.
It means loving them and choosing differently.
It means seeing the pain behind their patterns—without becoming a prisoner to them.
It means rewriting the story—not erasing it.
This Is Just the Beginning
This is the beginning of that story.
My story.
Maybe yours, too.
So if you’ve ever felt like the outsider in your own family…
If you’ve ever questioned everything and felt guilty for doing so…
If you’re holding the line between who you were raised to be and who you’re becoming—
This series is for you.
Because the cycle ends with us.
And that’s not a burden.
That’s a revolution.
Let’s Break the Cycle Together
Have you felt this too? Drop a comment below—your voice might be the sign someone else is looking for. If this spoke to you, share it with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone. We’re breaking the cycle together—one truth at a time.
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